you know Vi-, there's no nonbinary Bible written and dispersed of anywhere... I was never aware of any rules or written agreements or legally binding soul rituals... how you do things is your business and not mine or anyone else's

that you don't choose to have in your circles. my trans community has a lot of the same issues you described, not any of this "you don't do that" kind of attitude, just people act up and it gets handled "under the table" as it were... below the law. yes community accountability is a question, but yeah the ways we go about in my experience have been super not pretty. and the ways people act in our spaces, free of accountability... super not pretty either. the govt and police are no solutions either we know that buuuuut idk 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️